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Title: My wife died.
Post by: Mr. Panther on June 16, 2021, 11:50:55 PM
I am devastated, I just don't want to go forward any more. I'm done, I want to go join her.  :'(
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Post by: mobilehomer on June 16, 2021, 11:59:06 PM
Cole, my heart hurts for you. God comfort you.
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Post by: dcorvino on June 17, 2021, 12:06:59 AM
Cole
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers
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Post by: Insanity on June 17, 2021, 12:08:07 AM
I am sorry to hear that keep you head up.
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Post by: pdxFrank on June 17, 2021, 12:23:32 AM
My 2cents, and I expect change back.


It's an unimaginable loss, but don't change-up your life too much.  Stay focused as best you can.

I'm sure the wife would rather you keep doing what brings you joy.

I would seek out friends/relatives.  Don't bury yourself in a hole, it's hard to get out.


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Post by: Oldgringo on June 17, 2021, 12:48:44 AM
Cole, your ages are not posted. 

My wife and I both turned 79 this past February.  Martha is 4 days younger than me.  She has COPD and wears a Pacemaker with a Watchman.  I just have mobility issues, with no teeth or hearing.  We've both buried our parents.  Additionally, I have buried a younger son and a sister.  My worst fear, first above the current administration, is that Martha will die before I do.  I really don't know what I'd do if Martha goes to the Crematorium before I.  She can handle me being gone. She's a strong old lady.  However, if she goes first, I'll have to figure out something to do for the sake of me, Sally Wagger, and Monte Montana, our dog and cat.

Cole, this may be no comfort but, death is a part of living. "Everbody dies someday, Red" from the movie Platoon. We all hurt for you but ask you to be strong, buckle up, look ahead and get on with your life,  I suspect that is what your wife would want.  Somebody somewhere needs you and/or is waiting for you.

Best wishes!

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Post by: Rabbit\Squirrel Killer on June 17, 2021, 01:58:08 AM
 I will pray for you to be comforted and guided too.
 My dad who we expected to die several years ago lost his wife (my mom) last year. They had been in love for 60 years and the grief was about overwhelming. A year later now the unimaginable has happened, at 88 years old he is engaged to be married in August to a lady he met from church that has given him hope for a few more years.
 My dad is still grieving his loss but has received a comfort that he would have never expected. It has not made him younger but it has made him act younger, she is 63 years old and has been content with being single for the last 10 years. She is a Nurse which should/will come in handy, LOL.

Hang in there one day at a time as you look for the direction you need to go.

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Post by: John4861 on June 17, 2021, 02:42:51 AM
My heart is breaking bro.  Loss is hard to take, I know it all too well.  Life goes on, time will heal the pain; that's the only hope I can offer you physically. I'm praying for your healing and even more importantly for the strength and wisdom to deal with this all; for you, your family, and your friends.

Think on all the good times you two shared, that's what I'd bet she'd want you to do. Let your love for her shine through so that others can gain some stability through your strength.
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Post by: bear air on June 17, 2021, 06:34:47 AM
Thoughts and prayers sent. I'm very sorry for your loss Cole. I can't imagine the pain you are going through.
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Post by: Matchstickshooter on June 17, 2021, 06:43:09 AM
  Thoughts and prayers sent.
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Post by: DevilsLuck on June 17, 2021, 07:30:45 AM
You have my condolences.
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Post by: Chris USA on June 17, 2021, 07:36:40 AM
Thoughts and prayers sent for strength to cope and endure well.
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Post by: R.K. on June 17, 2021, 07:47:39 AM
Cole, thoughts and prayers to you. I am inspired by your personal text  "You can tell a mans worth by his actions"
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Post by: Wayne52 on June 17, 2021, 07:57:27 AM
Cole you've got my greatest condolence's to you and yours.
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Post by: Lt. Dan on June 17, 2021, 08:24:23 AM
I'm so sorry Cole. I have no other words to explain it.  My wife and I have talked a tiny bit what one would like the other to do if they passed away first. Grief is hard and bitter, my suggestion is to focus on the good times you've has together. There is no easy way to around grief, Imagine what she would tell you, if she could. My heart and prayers pours out to you.  I'm praying for strength and comfort in the days, weeks, and mouths ahead.
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Post by: Loe on June 17, 2021, 09:06:50 AM
My condolences to you and the family.
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Post by: ssbn617 on June 17, 2021, 09:31:15 AM
Cole,
 So sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your dear wife. I cannot fathom the depth of your pain Sir. Just know that we are here for you and you can call me anytime if you want to talk ,scream or mean woman about it.
Mitch
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Post by: KevinJBrown on June 17, 2021, 10:08:31 AM
Cole,

My prayers for you and for the repose of your wife's soul.

I don't know you or your wife, but I sincerely doubt she or anyone who has your best interest at heart would want for you to do anything but look to the future and what you can make of it.

Kevin
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Post by: dk1677 on June 17, 2021, 11:22:09 AM
So sorry to her that Cole, prayers for you and your family
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Post by: mr007s on June 17, 2021, 11:26:17 AM
Sadden to hear of your loss. My greatest concern is my wife going before i do. Sincere prayers for you Sir.
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Post by: wolverine on June 17, 2021, 11:34:46 AM
Be strong Cole.  We all lose close ones in our short lives.  When my father died in '05, just after celebrating 50 years together, my mother was devastated.  8 years later she was diagnosed with cancer and hid it from us for 6 months without seaking treatment.  She just wanted to join my father, but God had a different plan and she beat cancer twice and survived 2 strokes. She has been able to experience her great grandchildren and have many happy times since.


Don't give up Cole.  Live for her, you will be together again, just not now.


Gid bless.
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Post by: Duane38 on June 17, 2021, 11:41:38 AM
I am devastated, I just don't want to go forward any more. I'm done, I want to go join her.  :'(

My deepest condolences.  Try to hang on brother.  Don't let her down.  If you need to talk to someone or need help getting assistance I extend my hand.

My cell: 571-581-0781

I know we don't know each other, but I'm willing to offer help.
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Post by: rsterne on June 17, 2021, 11:44:40 AM
Cole, so very sorry to hear of your loss.... I hope her memories give you the strength to carry on....

Bob
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Post by: Jshooter71 on June 17, 2021, 12:10:42 PM
I’m sad to read this, Cole. I’m praying for you.
Hopefully, you know a lot of us care about you & wish for you to carry on.
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Post by: JuryRigger on June 17, 2021, 01:13:46 PM
I am so sorry for your loss... I cannot imagine your pain; my deepest condolences... Try to hang in there; with time this too shall pass-remember this: in your heart and mind; she is still with you-in the air around you; her spirit; in the ground beneath your feet; the cells shed from her body over the years-look around you; at the birds and the sun and the wind and the rain-she is there; with you always-dust to dust, ashes to ashes-she has never left; the fiber of her being will exist for all time... With you; and around you-time can be cruel in it's ways; but life must go on-it is the most precious gift that can be given-and I very much doubt that she would wish you to give it up...
Best wishes for strength and healing; and please-if the time comes that you are on the edge-promise us that you will call someone; please...
Jesse
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Post by: Hoosier Daddy on June 17, 2021, 01:21:14 PM
Deepest condolences Cole, so sorry for your loss and saddens me to think of your pain.
 There is a plan for us all, you are still with us for a reason.
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Post by: maraudinglizard on June 17, 2021, 01:26:17 PM
My condolences and prayers to you, Cole. Sorry for your loss.
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Post by: Rob C on June 17, 2021, 01:35:03 PM
Cole,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my father at the end of March, but I can't begin to imagine what you are going through right now. Stay strong and remember the good times you shared together. May you find the strength and comfort that you need at this time.
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Post by: mrbulk on June 17, 2021, 01:42:19 PM
Such sad news to hear, my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
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Post by: Lowkey on June 17, 2021, 02:23:52 PM
May you be strengthened by the blessings and laughter you shared.

Prayers for you both.
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Post by: Spin on June 17, 2021, 02:40:12 PM
Cole,

My prayers for you and for the repose of your wife's soul.

I don't know you or your wife, but I sincerely doubt she or anyone who has your best interest at heart would want for you to do anything but look to the future and what you can make of it.

Kevin

I recently lost a younger sister and have felt terrible grief and profound loss at the passing of other loved ones but I agree with with Kevin completely Cole the very last thing those who are most close to you would want would be for you to purposely cut your own time in this life short.
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Post by: Firewalker on June 17, 2021, 03:56:47 PM
Cole, I and many of here feel your pain as real as you do and we survived our loss, you can too. Hang in there and seek a support group to help navigate this road.
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Post by: EdinGa on June 17, 2021, 04:08:15 PM
Cole, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother-in-law December 23rd, my father on February 9th, and I almost lost my wife to pneumonia 2 weeks ago. There's so much more I could add, but to say the least my life has been a roller-coaster lately. The pain is real brother, and we are all pulling for you.
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Post by: Mr. Panther on June 17, 2021, 10:35:40 PM
Thank you every one. I am so numb, and blinded by this I can't see any way through this. I'm just a wreck. I just don't want to do anything any more. I can't eat, sleep, or think. I loved her more than life itself. Now I don't even love that. I'm sorry, but I'm just screwed up right now. I will update later.
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Post by: mwgm2020 on June 17, 2021, 10:56:23 PM
Cole, my sincere condolences for your loss. 

Losing a loved one is a devastating event.  Try not to fall into isolation, it makes the depression worse.  Seek out family and friends and just take it one day at a time.  May God take and bless your wife and protect and comfort you.
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Post by: 5thumbs on June 17, 2021, 11:16:42 PM
I'm sorry to hear this.   I dont know you but can tell you are hurting.  Please PM me if you want to communicate.  I am concerned that your grief is so overpowering and your statement about not wanting to go on your mention of joining her.   

Stay strong...

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Post by: Sqrl Klr on June 17, 2021, 11:24:25 PM
Cole seek Christ and stay close to Him learning of His promises for your future. He loves you more than you know. He will comfort you and help you transcend your pain. Been there so I know what I'm talking about. Without Him I would not have made it after losing my wife as my life was completely devastated into rubble like the twin towers on 9/11 after losing mine as she was my everything but God pulled me through and he will with you too. Persevere through Him and you will be light hearted laughing again despite your loss. You can't see it now but it will happen I give you my word.
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Post by: Blowpipe Sam on June 17, 2021, 11:30:38 PM
My deepest condolences Cole.  I know your loss hits close to home for all us married folks.  I cannot imagine a more terrible day.  Please persevere!
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Post by: Rocketman2021 on June 18, 2021, 01:11:34 AM
deepest condolences Cole
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Post by: BigBird on June 18, 2021, 01:39:41 AM
Cole,
Sorry for your loss.  Praying for Gods comfort for you.
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Post by: Tater on June 18, 2021, 03:23:01 AM
Sorry to hear this Cole. We're all here for you. As others have said, seek out friends and family if possible.
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Post by: Gone Fishing on June 18, 2021, 11:30:49 AM
I am devastated, I just don't want to go forward any more. I'm done, I want to go join her.  :'(

I don't know you, but I just read this and it hit home. I will be praying for you. When confronted with the horror of death it is hard to rationalize life. Everything can seem so hopeless. But it isn't. And there is hope and there is joy in both remembrance and your continued story.

I'd invite you to give yourself grace to be devastated and be okay with that and try and schedule times where you are going to take care of yourself (eating, being with others and washing cloths and so on).

You might try reading "A Grief Observed" by C.S. Lewis in a month or two. It is about him loosing his wife's and really shows his love for his wife and his journey in reconciling his life with the pain he felt.

Will be praying and again, I am so sorry for your loss. Though I don't know you, you are always welcome to msg me should you want prayers or anything else.

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Post by: douglasr on June 18, 2021, 01:56:47 PM
Cole, my condolences to you and your family. Seek out family and friends to share your grief and heal. Most of all, see God and his perfect will for comfort. I will keep you in my prayers
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Post by: oldpro on June 18, 2021, 02:07:01 PM
 God Bless you and may He give you the strength to carry on.
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Post by: Oldgringo on June 18, 2021, 11:01:58 PM
If anyone knows who/where Cole is, please keep us posted.  There are more than a few herein who have felt his hurt and who care about his future.

Best,

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Post by: Hoosier Daddy on June 19, 2021, 02:00:54 AM
Cole,
I am chiming in again.. ::)
I can understand your thoughts because I have pondered it often myself.
If Hoosier Momma passes before me, I will be lost....Completely devastated... I simply never want to imagine your grief.
BUT...She would want me to carry on.

Keeping you in my prayers.
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Post by: Luis Leon on June 19, 2021, 02:33:18 AM
My heartfelt condolences to you in your time of grief. Remember the good times when you can. My sweetheart and I have been together 40 years. I can't imagine life without her.
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Post by: 45WLA on June 19, 2021, 07:36:28 PM
Cole, our thoughts and prayers are with you. Keep your head up and look ahead, you can make it through these tough times.
May the peace of the Lord be with you and your dear wife.
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Post by: fv22 on June 19, 2021, 10:10:57 PM
My thoughts, prayers and condolences are with you. Although I have not been where you are right now I have thought about it alot. My wife has an incurable disease and was given 14 months to live. Thank God that was 3.5 years ago and with advances in medical trials she's still doing fine. But I have thought about losing her and how I will survive that almost constantly for the entire time. Not easy but I hope you find the strength to go on. I'm sure that's what she would want. On another note I lost my best friend of almost 50 years the other day. Not the same as losing your wife but not easy either.
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Post by: Airspace on June 23, 2021, 08:28:16 AM
The only thing I can imagine being harder than the death of a spouse is the death of a child. I have a firm belief that the moment a person dies it is up to the ones who love them to keep them alive. The body dies but as long as they are remembered by their loved ones they keep living. I lost both sets of grandparents and my parents at a relatively young age but there's not a day goes by that I don't talk to one or more of them in my mind. I never miss an opportunity to tell someone who didn't know them about them and the love they gave to me. As long as their remembered they are never gone.
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Post by: jmoronic on June 24, 2021, 11:06:05 PM
I'm very sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the pain. If you need to talk, please call I always have time for a friend. PM if you need my number.
I lost a son last year, it is hard, but the rest of the family still needs me and the love and smiles from them makes me know it will be ok.